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People-Pleasing, Trauma, Emotional Safety, Confidence, Relationships & Therapy
Exploring the psychology behind the patterns, thoughts and experiences that can be difficult to make sense of — from people-pleasing, overthinking and self-doubt to masking, boundaries, relationships, identity and self-expression.
Written by Charlotte Bailey, BABCP-accredited psychotherapist, speaker and spoken-word poet, drawing on over 15 years' experience in mental health.
Here you'll find psychological insights, relatable examples and practical ideas to help you understand yourself and the experiences that shape how you think, feel and relate to others.
How To Set Boundaries At Christmas
Christmas often feels like a marathon of obligations. Between trying to meet everyone’s expectations and making sure no one feels left out, the joy you hoped to experience can easily get buried under stress and pressure. In this post, I’ll explore how people-pleasing shows up at Christmas, why we fall into these patterns, and what steps you can take to break free from the cycle.
ADHD and Masking
People-pleasing, masking, and a lifelong feeling of being ‘too much’ or ‘difficult’ can all be deeply intertwined with the ADHD experience, particularly when you've spent years trying to fit into a world that doesn’t quite understand you.
Why Do I Get Burnout So Easily?
People-pleasing might feel like it's keeping the peace, but over time, it can have serious consequences for your mental and physical health and you could be on a slipper slope to burnout.
How to Stop People-Pleasing at Work
Whilst it’s natural to want to be seen as a well-liked team player and build positive relationships, the habit of always putting others’ needs before your own and going the extra mile can lead to burnout, frustration, resentment, and a loss of authenticity. Here’s how to stop…
5 Common Myths about People-Pleasing: What You Need to Know
Often people-pleasing is seen as ‘nice’ and being about being kind and helpful when there’s much more to it than that! Here I discuss 5 common myths about people-pleasing and tell you more about what people-pleasing is.